Stiff

This guy I know is getting married. He's a bit "out there" and I guess I don't quite understand him or know him well. Anyway, his bride-to-be is his exact opposite. He's fat, she's TV thin. He's intelligent and extremely arrogant and loud about it, she's very quiet and meager. And I just don't get it. I don't understand why she would want to be with him. I know that it's obviously something beyond looks, which is good, but I just don't understand.
The way she stood quietly behind him as he gloated and gloated about something in that voice that only people who call themselves "intelligent" talk, it just made me think of them being a couple. You know, walking together and being alone together and eating out somewhere and going to parties and being in bed together and meeting each others families, and I wondered what kind of things she says. I wondered what she would say when they got in the car to go home. Or what she would tell him if he told her to do something really absurd.
And I think that she's scared. I think that she's insecure and she makes up for that insecurity by being with him. And I think he's content with it because he wants control, he wants to control her and for her to be his, which is really stupid because nobody should belong to anyone. We aren't dogs. (Right?) Anyway, it all made me feel really sad for her because I could see their whole life ahead of them and I could see her being unhappy and him not caring and her finally leaving him and being stuck with the three kids and no money. All because she didn't know herself well enough to be herself and she wanted someone to tell her who she is. Why is that? Why do we want someone to order us around, someone to make the decisions, tell us who we should be? It's "unhealthy", but it's exciting. I personally love that. When the guy is cocky and overbearing and actually has a right to be. Is it because we want to be feminine and when the guy is a guy and not a man, we're forced to be a man, which interferes with us being feminine? (If you followed that). Or is it just simply easier not to have to think?